Marriage Myths

Myths Such as these Can Hurt Your Marriage  

We think that many myths that surround marriage give couples unrealistic expectations. Disappointment is sure to come for people who are looking for the Cinderella-like happily-ever-after storybook marriage year after year.
If you watch late night TV, enjoy classic movies, listen to love songs, or read romantic novels, then you may have an image of marriage that never, ever was.

  MYTH: Loneliness Myth - marriage will end our loneliness.
REALITY: Many married people still feel very lonely.

  MYTH: Fulfillment Fallacy which makes us believe that being married makes us complete human beings.
REALITY: A couple complements one another, not completes one another.

  MYTH: Marriage Is for Everyone.
REALITY: There are a lot of unmarried people who are extremely happy.

  MYTH: Romance will always be alive in a good marriage.
REALITY: Nearly all relationships experience peaks and valleys. The everyday problems and challenges of married life can often cloud over romantic feelings. This is when making the decision to love is important.

  MYTH: Marriage makes people happy.
REALITY: A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes nurturing and work. We can't expect our spouse to be our one source of happiness. Our personal happiness must come from within ourselves. Marriage can complement our own individual happiness but it can't be the primary source.

  MYTH: My spouse should know my needs without my saying anything.
REALITY: Just because we're married doesn't mean we can read minds. We have to tell our spouses what our needs are.

  MYTH: Conflict means a lack of love.
REALITY: Conflict happens in every marriage. Fighting fair and for the relationship, and not just to "win" is healthy in a marriage.